Everyone experiences challenges in the form of crises in our lives, some large and some less. Every crisis has it’s implications, and sometimes we are flooded with harsh and difficult feelings.
The first stage we encounter is the fall, the feeling that something bad has happened, something unexpected, something we are not interested in, and we have no control over. Everyone chooses to deal differently with the new situation, I call it the “pit.” Because at this stage we tend to enter into a sort of pit (metaphoric), in which we allow ourselves to experience all the negative emotions such as sadness, anger, disappointment, self-pity, shame, and more. Every emotion that arises is legitimate and should be given expression and place. It’s perfectly okay to enter the pit and stay there, to stop a little and digest what happened. The question is what we choose to do when we feel that we had enough, and sitting in the pit no longer suits us anymore.
This is the stage we need to leverage; this is the time to sort things with ourselves. Try to understand what we are going through, what the difficulties are, what inner resources can help me, what are my strengths. It’s also a great time to check out what thoughts or perceptions that have accompanied me in my life no longer suit me and what I want to replace.
Once we have strengthened ourselves and our resilience, we can look outside and try to identify what opportunities the crisis has brought with it. Yes, opportunities. It is precisely the shaking and breaking, that give an opportunity to motivate change. By mobilizing our strengths and resources, and by acquiring tools to strengthen, we can develop and change, so that ultimately a new and satisfying meaning will emerge.
It is time to define what we want to achieve in our lives, reexamine what to engage with or who to be, and build the dream. From now on, all that remains is to make the change, to continue to grow and to fly to every place that is right for us.
The unique model I developed, which accompanies people in the process of coping with crises and changes in life is called Happiness. In the name of the four stages it includes: releasing all that is unnecessary, filling new resources and energies, connecting to essence and destiny, fulfillment.
A simple process, relatively short and very empowering. Try for yourself.
And live with Health and happiness.